LOOK UP AFTER BREAK UP

LOOK UP AFTER BREAK UP

Attachment is the opposite of detachment. Its human nature that you tend to get attached to someone or something may be living or non-living. It's quite spontaneous. A small kid loves his or her toys immensely and if someone tries to snatch away her beloved possessions, the child at once withdraws the hand backwards, thus making his annoyance and refusal apparent. Unfortunately, if the child's toy breaks, which is so common to happen, one can well imagine the plight of the little one. Though, he may get pacify after some time, but for once, he really gets pissed off. The reason for such a violent behavior is his unconditional attachment or love for his most favorite stuff.
Imagine, if a child can't bear the separation of a minor toy, which in his eyes is the biggest thing, how can a youngster or an elder person bear "separation?
Chan se tutte koi sapna,
Jag suna suna lagge re..
Jab koi rahe na apna,
Jag suna suna lagge re…..
That's the latest buzz among youngsters. We are in the twenty first century, where developments are taking place at a rapid pace and further, will take place more swiftly. So, affairs have also undergone changes. Earlier, people were more innocent, dedicated, holding a strong value system. Though, now only a minority holds this trait whereas, the majority thinks otherwise. The main focus of today's youth, in particular, is to 'get rich over night'. Those who are unable to achieve their desired goals get frustrated and tend to take wrong path. This applies to both the boys and girls, respectively. Basically, any relationship works only, if it's true and not based on any kind of selfish interest. For example, some do get involved in a relationship in lurement of ample dowry or going abroad. Or, any other kind of lurement. Apparently, couples seem together but inwardly, a good relationship is 'over'. Any relation based on any kind of selfish motive doesn't last longer.
Today's friendships are referred to as 'Kacche Tandaan diyan ajj kal yaarian", which shows the weakness of the relationship.
The latest scenario is that parks, universities are full of couples sitting in the lawns or some preferring hideous corners, where nobody can see them. Out of which majority are flirting, that is, a girl is with a boy because of his money. The moment she finds a suitable 'rich' guy, her focus shifts to the new boy, forgetting the old one. This applies to boys too. Thus, leading to break-ups, where either both of them are happy, as both didn't gave much importance to it and thought it as a mere time-pass. But, the couples where one is serious and other is fake, break-up becomes very painful and hurting. Lastly, where both are serious and things don't take a positive turn, may be because parents don't agree, break-up becomes hurting.
To get emotionally upset or 'dil tootna' disturbs one a lot as whom you loved immensely doesn't belong to you anymore. Though the latest trend of social networking sites doesn't let the tie break completely as some may or may not get involve directly through these sites, but still can see the ongoing things in other's life. With few exceptions, where partners delete the profiles.
Some feel like having an affair just for the sake of it. The weird reason is if the mother scolds you at home or some kind of a tiff takes place, they feel the desperation to be with someone with whom they can share their feelings. One can well imagine, if such a relationship takes place, what will be its fate? If in future the relationship breaks (which ought to get break), one curses its destiny and feels pathetic. Though, certainly, this is a temporary phase as gradually one does move ahead in one's life.
Further, the strangest part is 'Love on the rebound'. One relationship breaks and the other starts. In some cases, that too with the same intensity, as if one was waiting to end the former and start the latter. It happens like, a person may be a male or female as is undergoing a break-up, he feels bad and reminiscence about the past which makes his condition all the more deplorable. Then, the person start seeking solace in any person, may be classmate, friend, family or from any other source. The problem is love is not unconditional. It's on rebound. The situation aggravates when one starts comparing his ex with the present. Basically, this type of love only provides comfort or sympathy with very few exceptions, who will handle the situation well.
The point is, "Are you so weak emotionally that anybody will come and take advantage of you and you will wander haywire for support? If a decision, god forbid, went wrong, try to learn from it. Next time be more conscious instead of cribbing over the past.
Break-ups are the part of life. Sometimes, things don't work out well. One partner may be willing to change, but other doesn't. It leads to splitting of relationship or any numerous reasons. One should not submit to the circumstances. Fight back. You have to see what you have to make of your life. Either succumb to your decision that you had a break-up and everybody is finished. Or try to come out of the situation, being more sensible or wise in choosing a partner, indulge your self in reading or writing, traveling, work, watching T.V or whatever interests you. Be positive. If you got a wrong partner, it'd not your fault. You didn't choose the wrong partner intentionally. So, move on in your life meeting new people. Life is very beautiful. Don't waste it for stupid people. Instead, try to make full use of it. For few seconds, give it a thought…"Did the partner who ditched you have stopped his or her life for you? Those people are enjoying their life with their 'new' partners. Then, why are you suffering and making a hell of your life, for no reason and fault of yours?
Life is what you make of it. It's a fact. Shakespeare once said, "Character is destiny". So, make a beautiful destiny with a strong and positive character. So,
LOOK UP AFTER BREAK UP….

HARLEEN PANDHER